Watch a sexy movie together

While it's true that some women won't be receptive to this idea, most will try it at least once. After all, chicks like dirty movies too, they just don't always admit it. The right kind of action will turn her on instantly - the trick is selecting a movie she wants to watch. In other words, unless your girl's into gang-banging, please don't go there. Ditto for anything involving hardcore S&M activity. You want to turn her on, not send her screaming from the room. Find a movie she's comfortable with and she'll be all over you before you know it.

Read her a dirty story

Millions of women read erotic novels. Why? Because dirty books do for her what girlie mags do for you - they turn her on. Combine that with a sexy male voice and you can probably guess how potent this can be. Don't worry, we're not talking romance novels, here... we're talking smut. One anthology of erotic short stories is all you need, but be selective. Skim the stories before you buy; you don't want to accidentally purchase something too over the top. Read to her in bed (or have her read to you), but don't expect to make it through the entire story - she's likely to be sitting astride you before too long.

Give her a full body massage

This is probably the easiest way to turn a woman on. Have her strip down as much as possible (preferably to her knickers, at least) and lie face down on the bed. Being mindful of your weight, straddle her hips and start by running your fingers through her hair. Women love this, so take your time. Massage her scalp and then move on to her neck and shoulders. Where you go from there is up to you - the secret lies in taking it slow. As her arousal builds, increase the pressure in your fingers. You don't want to inflict pain, but a little rough handling can feel delicious on her shoulders, hips, thighs and bottom. If you really want to win her over, a slow, sensual foot massage has been known to bring more than one woman to orgasm.

Tie her up

Most women are at least secretly turned-on by the idea of being tied up. Your woman could well be one of them. Interested in finding out? It's pretty easy, really. Grab something innocuous - a tie, perhaps... and bring it to bed. While kneeling, slip behind her. Reach around her body and take her wrists into one hand. Hold them firmly; if she doesn't seem alarmed by the sudden restriction, reach for the tie you brought along.

Slowly circle her wrists and watch her reaction. If she's not frightened, keep going. Pull her back against you and explore her body. Again, do this slowly. This involves a healthy level of trust on her part; you don't want to freak her out with any sudden moves. Once she knows you'll respect her boundaries, feel free to pick up the pace. You'll know when she's ready - she'll be thrashing and moaning. This is also an excellent opportunity to bring her to orgasm with your fingers.

Feed each other

Food never looked as sexy as it did when Kim Basinger was being fed in the film Nine - Weeks. If you've never dabbled in this kind of play, that movie is an excellent place to start your education. Strawberries, whipped cream, chocolate pudding - all of these things can be sensuously fed to your woman. Run a honey-covered finger across her lower lip and watch how quickly she tries to take it into her mouth. The simulated act of fellatio will turn both of you on, especially if done somewhere other than the bedroom. Try this while picnicking in the park or dining in crowded car, you might be surprised to find you've been dating a naughty little exhibitionist.

Monotony has the same effect on a woman's libido as it does on a man's. She doesn't want a routine sex life any more than you do. Take the initiative and try one of these tips the next time things start feeling a bit too familiar. Let her know you fully intend to keep things sexed up, and she'll be more than happy to help.